Some of the most confident people I know are also the most compassionate, and I find this link really interesting. What is it about compassion that connects us to our confidence?
Continue readingBKTY As you know I’m writing about kindness this month, as I believe it’s a crucial element in cultivating a confident, authentic life. I totally and emphatically believe that the kinder we are to others the better we feel about ourselves. But, this needs to start at home, with ourselves. Someone once sent me a text saying, simply; “BKTY” I had to text her back and ask what she meant. “Be Kind To Yourself,” came…
Continue readingI can’t believe it’s May already! This month we’re going to be exploring kindness; the fifth topic in our year-long series about the qualities and principles that make up true, genuine confidence. What is kindness? The dictionary comes up with definitions that focus on how our kindness affects others, for example, “kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate,” and, “kindness is a behaviour marked by ethical characteristics, a pleasant disposition, and concern…
Continue readingAs part of my month of looking at love and our relationships with others, I’m excited to share with you a guest blog from my dear friend and fellow coach, Ané Auret, on making love work in intimate relationships. As a dating and relationship coach I work with people every day on helping them overcome what is holding back from finding the person they want to spend their life with. The things that drive the…
Continue readingOver the years I’ve often seen quotes suggesting that in order to attract true love into your life you have to ‘be’ true love in your life. And this used to really confuse me. But, I think I understand it a bit better now. As a culture we’re programmed to think that we will ‘be’ a certain person once we ‘get’ a certain thing.
Continue readingAs we come to the end of self-love month I wanted to tell you about something that happened to me just yesterday. Because sometimes (oftentimes) we need the love and guidance of another person in order to recapture our sense of self-love.
Continue readingAre you someone who is always waiting to get to that magical place called ‘there’? You know the place I mean… “When I’m promoted (‘there’), I’ll be confident.” “When I marry my soulmate (‘there’), I’ll be happy.” “When I’ve paid off the mortgage (‘there’), I’ll feel settled.” “When I’ve had a baby (‘there’), I’ll be contented.” “When I’m perfect (‘there’), I’ll start loving myself…”
Continue readingI’ve been doing a lot of work away from home recently and last week I got chatting to a couple of guys over our hotel breakfasts. I love meeting new people and these guys were fascinating. Both were in their early forties, both had been married and gone through similarly painful divorces over a decade ago, both were dads and both worked hard travelling the UK with their jobs.
Continue readingSomebody asked me last week why I was writing about self-love when I’m a confidence coach. They couldn’t see the link, and for many years I don’t think I could see the link either. I can now.
Continue readingIf you read Tuesday’s post about the benefits of self-love, you’ll know that I promised to start giving you tips on how you might start the life-long process of learning to be good to yourself today. I’ll be exploring this topic in depth throughout March, and today we’ll make a start together…
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