Painfully perfect? May 15, 2017 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Personal Development

“I can’t possibly be a perfectionist!  I never get anything right!” This was the response of my client to my suggestion that she was suffering with perfectionism.  After she spoke I remained silent and slowly the realisation of what she’d said hit her… “Oh, wait!” she said, “If I wasn’t a perfectionist I wouldn’t always worry about getting everything right… Right?” BINGO! As a specialist in confidence issues I see perfectionism in my clients on…

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Your best life is rooted in truth … May 8, 2017 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Personal Development

I was recently interviewed by America’s Danielle Longano for her Sunshine Summit.  The purpose of the summit being to help people start becoming their best selves and live their best lives. You can listen to the full 30-minute interview here. In it, you will hear me saying repeatedly that our best lives are born out of truth.  I believe I can only be my best when I’m operating from a position of authenticity and truth. Operating from truth means…

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Addicted to fear …? May 2, 2017 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Personal Development

As a Confidence Coach, one of my main pieces of work is helping my clients identify when they are listening to fear and how this then manifests in their lives.  Fear is a very debilitating condition to live with on a long term basis: it causes us to stay in relationships/jobs/situations that no longer feed us, it tells us we can’t cope with life, it tells us we are not worthy and that everyone else…

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How to stop worrying? Follow the signs… November 22, 2016 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development, Spirituality

Sometimes you just need to be aware of the signs that life is sending your way… This morning I found myself caught up in needless worry. An old habit that I thought I’d laid to rest. But, for some mysterious reason this morning it was back. Back with a vengeance! Now, I know what to do with worry. I’ve written a book about it for goodness sakes!  This is how to stop worrying… Notice it…

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The Comparison Trap October 13, 2016 – Posted in: Confidence

Comparing yourself to another person will never give you the self-esteem you seek. Either you’ll decide you’re better than them, which will deliver a fleeting ego-hit that will leave you feeling uncomfortably superior but distanced from that person OR you’ll find yourself lacking, which will leave you deflated, self-loathing and resentful (oh, and again distanced from that other person).

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Be kind to yourself June 6, 2016 – Posted in: Confidence

BKTY As you know I’m writing about kindness this month, as I believe it’s a crucial element in cultivating a confident, authentic life. I totally and emphatically believe that the kinder we are to others the better we feel about ourselves. But, this needs to start at home, with ourselves. Someone once sent me a text saying, simply; “BKTY” I had to text her back and ask what she meant. “Be Kind To Yourself,” came…

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How kindness will make you more confident May 3, 2016 – Posted in: Confidence, Spirituality

I can’t believe it’s May already! This month we’re going to be exploring kindness; the fifth topic in our year-long series about the qualities and principles that make up true, genuine confidence. What is kindness? The dictionary comes up with definitions that focus on how our kindness affects others, for example, “kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate,” and, “kindness is a behaviour marked by ethical characteristics, a pleasant disposition, and concern…

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What it takes to have a successful relationship April 25, 2016 – Posted in: Confidence, Relationships

As part of my month of looking at love and our relationships with others, I’m excited to share with you a guest blog from my dear friend and fellow coach, Ané Auret, on making love work in intimate relationships.  As a dating and relationship coach I work with people every day on helping them overcome what is holding back from finding the person they want to spend their life with. The things that drive the…

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