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Will losing weight help my self-esteem? February 19, 2024 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Personal Development, Relationships, Spirituality

In the world, the pursuit of a perfect body often overshadows the quest for genuine self-acceptance. As we dive into this month’s Coaching Insights, we look at the link between losing weight and self-esteem, prompted by a question asked by a reader from my advice column in a national newspaper. Q: I’ve put a lot of weight on and I can’t recognise myself in the mirror anymore. My self-esteem is at an all-time low. Will…

Need more confidence? Try this simple grounding technique. April 28, 2023 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Personal Development, Relationships

In my confidence-building courses, I teach my delegates some simple grounding techniques in order to calm themselves when they are feeling overwhelmed by the panic and fear associated with low confidence. Here’s a simple exercise you can do in any moment of self-doubt or overwhelm. It’s called the Five Senses Grounding Technique and it’s so simple that a small child could master it in minutes. 1. Whatever is happening in your mind make the decision to stop…

How to maintain your confidence when you’ve just had a baby March 20, 2023 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Personal Development, Relationships, Spirituality

Becoming a parent is undoubtedly one of the most overwhelmingly amazing things a person can do. However it is a journey fraught with highs and lows and if you’re not careful you can get lost in a mire of self-doubt, perfectionism and self-loathing. A baby, a serious lack of sleep, the enormous responsibility of another life and the intense upheaval of your own life can destroy your confidence but it doesn’t have to. I’m a…

Your confidence is your responsibility February 22, 2023 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Personal Development, Relationships

In my coaching practice I so often hear people tell me that they lack confidence because of something someone did or said to them in the past. It could be that teacher who told you that you’d amount to nothing. A childhood bully who constantly picked on you at break times. Your hypercritical parent from whom you could never gain approval. Perhaps you were dumped and left broken by an ex-partner. Stop letting your past impact…

Forgiveness – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Personal Development, Relationships, Spirituality

Confidence is an inside job and baggage from the past can seriously affect your ability to be a confident person. One of the biggest (but often overlooked) blockers to confidence struggling with forgiveness and blaming other people from the past for how you feel today, which just keeps you stuck in bitterness, resentment and low self-esteem. Those of us with genuine confidence have learned that we have to forgive the people who have hurt us in order to be free. I was working with a…

How to maintain your confidence in an argument February 13, 2023 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Personal Development, Relationships

Conflict can be hard for us all but if you struggle with your confidence it can be excruciatingly difficult to enter into a disagreement. All your fears of rejection (which I made a video about over on my Instagram) and failure will be screaming at you to run BUT conflict is a part of life and we have to learn to deal with it because otherwise we say nothing and get resentful or blow up…

Just because you think something doesn’t mean it’s true February 21, 2022 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Personal Development, Relationships

As a specialist confidence coach for the last decade, I’ve come to see that my job is really very simple; I help clients to manage their thinking because just because you think something, doesn’t mean it’s true. Here’s an example of my own life… Just before I graduated from university in my twenties I spent a fruitless day shopping for an outfit for the end of term prom. Fruitless because I had very limited budget,…

Christmas Comparisons December 14, 2021 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Relationships

Christmas comparisons can be a real downer for your self-esteem. And with Christmas fast approaching, I just wanted to give you my yearly reminder to not compare your festive season to others’ – especially those we see on all those sparkly TV ads. Christmas, like people, comes in all shapes and sizes. Some of us will be working, some of us will be alone. Some of us will be with people we really can’t stand, some…

Confidence is a million miles from arrogance June 30, 2021 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Relationships

Have you always wanted to be more confident but worry that people will think you’re arrogant if you do? I hear this a lot and it holds so many people back from accessing deep confidence because they are worried it will alienate them from other people. Let me tell you what I know. I know—in fact, I know for sure—that arrogance is a million miles from true confidence. Arrogance, cockiness and bullishness are usually masks people wear to hide their deep insecurities. Often arrogant people have resorted to control tactics in…

What has love got to do with confidence? May 27, 2021 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Relationships, Spirituality

What has love got to do with confidence? Well… Everything, actually. True love wants your freedom You see, to truly love another person is to want their growth, their freedom, and their joy. Remember the old adage, “If you love someone let them go”? What it’s saying is that genuine love is not about ownership or control but about wanting to nurture and support the object of your affection in order that they can truly shine and truly live as who they…

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