Confidence is a million miles from arrogance June 30, 2021 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Relationships

Have you always wanted to be more confident but worry that people will think you’re arrogant if you do?  

I hear this a lot and it holds so many people back from accessing deep confidence because they are worried it will alienate them from other people.

Let me tell you what I know.  I know—in fact, I know for sure—that arrogance is a million miles from true confidence.  Arrogance, cockiness and bullishness are usually masks people wear to hide their deep insecurities.  Often arrogant people have resorted to control tactics in an attempt to mitigate their fears.  Oh, and arrogant people see others as ‘the competition’ so life becomes a race, a battle, a courtroom.

True confidence, on the other hand, is a self-loving and other-loving state. True confidence allows others to be who they are. True confidence seeks unity and celebrates diversity.  Truly confident people want everyone to do well and enjoy encouraging others.  Truly confident people are authentic; you know exactly where you stand with them

True confidence is:

Curious, 
Kind, 
Humble,
Strong,
Courageous,
Open-hearted,
Full of integrity and, above all,
Honest 

In short, you know you are with a truly confident person if you feel more of who you are when you are with them.
Now, how do you feel about growing more confident?  

Ask yourself…

How can I be more curious?
How can I be kind?
How can I be both humble and strong?
How can I show courage?
How can I open my heart more?
How can I live with more honesty and integrity?
How do I want people to feel when they are with me? 

Try this

Every time you come across an arrogant person stop and remind yourself that they are just hiding their fears behind a very wonky mask.  And then do your best to be as loving, honest and courageous as you can with them.

The more you do this the more confident you will become.

Read my 5* rated book for a step-by-step guide to building lasting confidence.

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