How much do you try to control the outcomes of your life? To try and make people think how you want them to think, or to get that promotion you want, or to force that guy to fall in love with you…?
Continue readingSo, here we all are at the end of another year and counting the days to Christmas. If, like me, you have young children at home then the excitement will likely be reaching fever pitch especially with all the parties, nativities and mufti days adding to the already heady cocktail of anticipation and exhaustion. There’s no doubt this is a magical and special time of the year but there are many for whom Christmas is difficult…
Continue readingOn Sunday, my seven-year-old daughter, Eva, decided to, “test whether what mummy says about things being dangerous is true or not,” by putting her hand on top of the wood burner. It had been on for an hour and she badly burnt her hand. In hindsight, I could write about how interesting it is to me that my first reaction was anger, “What did you do that for?” followed quickly by fear and compassion for…
Continue readingA growing part of my work involves relationship coaching; the essence of which is enabling people better understand each other. This applies to teams, families and couples who bravely agree to the intervention of a third party in order to live with more clarity and cohesion in the future.
Continue readingI’ve just started writing my first book and realised very early on that I need to devote an entire chapter to this thing we coaches call, ‘co-dependency’ otherwise known as ‘victim mentality’ and/or ‘control freakery’. It’s a weighty subject, one I know only too well and something I constantly need to check in my own life. It deserves a whole chapter because I think we all suffer with it to varying degrees and yet we…
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