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Painfully perfect? May 15, 2017 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Personal Development

“I can’t possibly be a perfectionist! I never get anything right!” This was the response of my client to my suggestion that she was suffering with perfectionism. After she spoke I remained silent and slowly the realisation of what she’d said hit her… “Oh, wait!” she said, “If I wasn’t a perfectionist I wouldn’t always worry about getting everything right… Right?” BINGO! As a specialist in confidence issues I see perfectionism in my clients on…

Addicted to fear …? May 2, 2017 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Personal Development

As a Confidence Coach, one of my main pieces of work is helping my clients identify when they are listening to fear and how this then manifests in their lives. Fear is a very debilitating condition to live with on a long term basis: it causes us to stay in relationships/jobs/situations that no longer feed us, it tells us we can’t cope with life, it tells us we are not worthy and that everyone else…

The Comparison Trap October 13, 2016 – Posted in: Confidence

Comparing yourself to another person will never give you the self-esteem you seek. Either you’ll decide you’re better than them, which will deliver a fleeting ego-hit that will leave you feeling uncomfortably superior but distanced from that person OR you’ll find yourself lacking, which will leave you deflated, self-loathing and resentful (oh, and again distanced from that other person).

Confidence and compassion June 29, 2016 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Some of the most confident people I know are also the most compassionate, and I find this link really interesting. What is it about compassion that connects us to our confidence?

What motivates your kindness? May 10, 2016 – Posted in: Personal Development

I once worked with a woman whose marriage was over after 20 years. She was absolutely devastated and had fought to keep the relationship going despite her husband wanting a divorce for many years. “I don’t understand it,” she said, “I was so nice to him. I was kind, I was loving, I was the perfect wife!”

My brand new confidence building online course… November 4, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence

I’m so proud to announce the launch of my eCourse, 5 Steps to Lasting Confidence. I know how crippling low self esteem can be. For decades, I wore a confident mask whilst suffering with low self esteem, believing the voice in my head that told me I wasn’t good enough – as a professional, as a mother, as a friend and as a woman. I spent a large chunk of my life struggling against my own…

Resisting What Is September 23, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence

I was working with a client earlier who credits her loss of confidence to her body size. She’s a UK size 12, i.e. normal, slim, just about right.

What do you believe about yourself? August 18, 2015 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence

When you believe you can’t do something you are likely to prove yourself right – because you probably won’t try or you’ll give up after the first attempt.

Discovering Self-Esteem July 29, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Where does your self-esteem come from?

Face Your Feelings July 20, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

I’ve been thinking about the strategies we employ to deal with our feelings and how so many of these strategies backfire.