When there is no desire, all things are at peace September 5, 2019 – Posted in: Advice, Personal Development

For those of you who follow me on Instagram, you will no doubt have seen that I spent 10 days catering for our five kids in a tent in Cornwall during one of the most crazy storms the South West has seen in a while.  My amazing husband spent two sleepless nights outside pegging and re-pegging the tent while the kids slept soundly through the whole thing!  For me, it was like trying to rest…

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Letting go of people, places and things July 4, 2019 – Posted in: Advice, Relationships

I have had to let go of many things in my life; old habits that were no longer serving me, old unhelpful thoughts and self-limiting beliefs, old favourite clothes that were worn through, old homes my expanding family had outgrown, old ways of working etc.  Always, before letting go, there was a period of trying to cling on (denial) and always, during letting go, there has been some kind of sadness.  More often than not,…

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Lessons from Love Island June 12, 2019 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Personal Development, Relationships

If, like me, you’re new to delights of Love Island you may, on first viewing, have been shocked on several levels: the amount of flesh on show (I realise this comment identifies me as seriously middle-aged but I grew up with Bananarama and Duran Duran and those guys wore their clothes on TV), the forced/heavily controlled environment (like Big Brother on speed) and the painful desperation of the contestants, all makes for very uncomfortable viewing.…

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You are what you think… November 14, 2018 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Personal Development

I was ten when I started to believe I had fat legs. It needs to be said at this stage that I categorically did not have fat legs (I was a skinny kid) but I absolutely believed I did have fat legs and they immediately became a source of shame for me. I clearly remember looking at a photo of myself in my Tammy Girl white-with-pink-dots rah-rah skirt (I was a girl of my time…

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How to break free from the cycle of fear October 18, 2018 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence

Have you ever noticed how much fear mongering our society engages in?  Just stop and think about the messages we all receive (and generate) on a daily basis: “Lose 10lbs in 10 days!” based on the assumption that you are afraid your current weight is not acceptable. “Work hard at school otherwise you’ll never get a good job.” = fear of financial insecurity. “85% of women agreed this cream gave them younger looking skin,” which…

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A Crash Course in Confidence March 12, 2018 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence

Everyone struggles with his or her confidence from time to time but for some of us, self-doubt and low self-esteem are constant companions, scuppering our abilities to reach our potential. But imagine if I told you that you could learn the skills you need to grow and maintain your confidence in just one week!  Would you be willing to learn and practice them?  I bet you would!  These are skills that you will have to…

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Confidence is a muscle that you need to exercise October 23, 2017 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Personal Development

So many people think that confidence is something we are either born with or not but this is a lie!  Confidence is a muscle – we all have a confidence muscle but some of us haven’t learnt to exercise it yet. If you want tight, strong tummy muscles you go to the gym to do your sit ups, crunches, planks, and leg raises 3-4 times a week, you also watch your diet and, lo and…

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Finding your inner sparkle July 3, 2017 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Relationships

Your inner sparkle is THE ONLY sparkle you should be interested in showing to the world.  Why?  Because it’s the real you and that’s what’s always most attractive.  Your inner sparkle is unique and you’ll know you’ve found it when you feel like you are flowing through life, connecting easily with people, and generally attracting positive things into your world. How to find it… STOP comparing yourself to others and start concentrating on being truly…

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Kindness and Quilting June 19, 2017 – Posted in: Advice, Relationships

My daughters were recently given a beautiful patchwork quilt made by my beloved grandmother.  In fact, it was the last thing she made before she died over 20-years ago so they are delighted and deeply touched to have it. They are young, modern kids who love YouTube and gymnastics and shopping sprees.  But they also have huge respect for anything authentic and homemade, especially things they can tell have been made with love and kindness.…

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Painfully perfect? May 15, 2017 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Personal Development

“I can’t possibly be a perfectionist!  I never get anything right!” This was the response of my client to my suggestion that she was suffering with perfectionism.  After she spoke I remained silent and slowly the realisation of what she’d said hit her… “Oh, wait!” she said, “If I wasn’t a perfectionist I wouldn’t always worry about getting everything right… Right?” BINGO! As a specialist in confidence issues I see perfectionism in my clients on…

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