Are you someone who worries about the future and spends time fretting about the past? Most of us can relate to this state of mind and we all know it gets us nowhere. For some of us, this way of thinking becomes entrenched and consumes the majority of our thought-life, meaning we can never enjoy the moment. I know because I used to live this way myself.
Continue readingLife is about unlearning fear through the practice of love…
Continue readingOne of the best things I’ve been taught to do in recent years is to ‘let go and let life do its thing’. However, truly letting go is also one of the hardest things to achieve – it takes practice and persistence.
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Continue readingMany years ago I was introduced to the concept of living life in 24-hour chunks. It was a very alien concept for someone who was well versed in worrying about/regretting/resenting the past and worrying about/fearing/plotting the future. In fact, the concept was so foreign to me that I failed to integrate it into my life because I just couldn’t see how it would be possible to live one day at a time.
Continue readingHow much value do you place on your worrying? What I mean by this is, how much do you feel you can effect in life by worrying? Many people believe that it’s their job and duty to worry. They wear their concern like a uniform.
Continue readingOne of the biggest challenges of modern life is how to juggle our work with our family commitments. Whilst some parents choose to stay home with their kids (and hats off to them!), most of us have to work or choose to work AND raise our kids. So, how can you manage this in order to feel like you’re winning at both? For me it comes down to three things – drop the guilt,…
Continue readingLet me tell you about a client of mine who I worked with several years ago… James* was a straight-A student who couldn’t get out of bed or do any studying. He was also taking painkillers by the handful, drinking every day and had stopped eating. Having been predicted a first class degree in his first and second years at university, he now risked being thrown off his course.
Continue readingI’ve been thinking about the strategies we employ to deal with our feelings and how so many of these strategies backfire.
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