I’ve been realising increasingly that happiness or being ‘sorted’ is not about how my life looks from the outside but how I choose to respond to whatever happens. If I respond in fear or frustration I am likely to make a situation worse (or certainly feel worse about it) but, if I respond from a place of acceptance and calm I will likely retain my sense of balance and I then stand a far better…
Continue readingHello, As a confidence coach I’m often asked what I do in order to be more confident. And my answer is that it’s not so much what I do but what I THINK that allows me to have a confident day.
Continue readingI bumped into an old friend to this morning who told me this … “Letting go is often the HARDEST thing to achieve but when we do FREEDOM comes and the thing we want either arrives or we realise we don’t actually need it after all!”
Continue readingI was coaching a client yesterday who had come to the realisation that the only certainty in life is uncertainty. It’s one of those tricky paradoxes that we all live with on a daily basis; some days more keenly than others. None of us know what’s going to happen later today, tomorrow or next week. We have our plans and our hopes but sometimes life has other ideas.
Continue readingYou know when you keep hearing the same phrase repeated over a period of time? Well, over the past 24 hours I’ve read and heard the phrase, “it’s always darkest before the dawn” three times. I think life is trying to tell me something!
Continue readingHello, Here’s what I’m mulling today… “He who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right” – Confucius
Continue readingConfidence is one of the greatest gifts we can give to our children, especially in this era of constant peer comparison on social media. But, how on earth do you instill self-belief into your child? Aside from the basics of love, nurture, support and clear boundaries it’s my conviction that the more I allow my daughters to do things independently of me the more confidence they gain. This can be in the small things…
Continue readingI feel caught in a dilemma. Some time back I got into a relationship with someone for whom I developed very strong feelings. Sadly the relationship quickly broke down because of some complex family issues that she had to deal with. It happened so fast that at the time I felt very confused and sad and wasn’t quite sure what to believe. We have managed to stay friends and I do trust her much more…
Continue readingHow many times have you faced a decision in life that you’ve agonised over? I know that I’ve been in this situation on more than one occasion and the hours spent deliberating can be exhausting and, often, fruitless. If you are someone who lacks confidence then you will likely canvass everyone you know for their opinion on, ‘what you should do’. The problem with this is that everyone is likely to offer you a different…
Continue readingI’m 39 and a mum. I’ve been with my partner for 6 years but am finding it very hard and strange. He always has his phone locked. I can see I have no say over his phone – it’s his and that’s it – but I’ve seen a lot of women he used to chat up on chat rooms and WhatsApp on there and I’ve seen porn on his laptop and phone.
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