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Forget resolutions, set goals December 22, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Set with enthusiasm and all good intentions, resolutions are meant to improve our lives. The problem, as we all know, is that they are usually ‘broken’ by the end of January, leaving us feeling dejected, despondent and cross with ourselves. I was caught in this trap for many, many years until one Christmas I thought I’d set goals for the coming year instead of make resolutions, the focus being on things I could achieve over…

Pre-Christmas De-Stress December 18, 2014 – Posted in: Personal Development, Relationships

So, here we all are at the end of another year and counting the days to Christmas. If, like me, you have young children at home then the excitement will likely be reaching fever pitch especially with all the parties, nativities and mufti days adding to the already heady cocktail of anticipation and exhaustion. There’s no doubt this is a magical and special time of the year but there are many for whom Christmas is difficult…

Love In Action December 4, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development, Relationships, Spirituality

On Sunday, my seven-year-old daughter, Eva, decided to, “test whether what mummy says about things being dangerous is true or not,” by putting her hand on top of the wood burner. It had been on for an hour and she badly burnt her hand. In hindsight, I could write about how interesting it is to me that my first reaction was anger, “What did you do that for?” followed quickly by fear and compassion for…

Relationship Coaching November 25, 2014 – Posted in: Leaders and Teams, Relationships

A growing part of my work involves relationship coaching; the essence of which is enabling people better understand each other. This applies to teams, families and couples who bravely agree to the intervention of a third party in order to live with more clarity and cohesion in the future.

Fearing Failure November 19, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence

Many of the people I see in my coaching practice suffer with a fear of failure. In fact, I reckon if we all peeled back the layers of our psyche we’d likely find this fear of failure in some form or another. Fear of failure is a fear of being exposed or a fear of not being good enough. It’s also a fear of the unknown based on the belief that you ‘wouldn’t cope’ if…

Having a Plan and Having a Purpose November 5, 2014 – Posted in: Leaders and Teams, Personal Development

A client asked me yesterday about strategy – how to create one and how to stick to one – and my answer was twofold: 1. Know what your purpose is in life (i.e. be intentional in all you do) and… 2. Start with the end in mind

The powerful medicine that is gratitude… October 29, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

I’ve written about gratitude before but it’s worth returning to, as it’s so very, very powerful. If you are feeling low or frustrated or heartbroken then focussing on the small positive things in your life will give you a boost, take you momentarily away from your negative thoughts and give you a new perspective on your situation.

Letting Go of Outcomes October 22, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

I have a client, we’ll call him Tim*, who used to be terribly worried about getting things right and not making mistakes. He worked a normal 40-hour week but then spent an additional 15-20 hours each week trying to improve the work he’d already done or spot any mistakes he might’ve missed. You might think Tim had a tyrannical boss but the truth is he works for himself, runs his own consultancy and therefore the…

Stop Starting Wars October 7, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Personal Development

I’ve been realising increasingly that happiness or being ‘sorted’ is not about how my life looks from the outside but how I choose to respond to whatever happens. If I respond in fear or frustration I am likely to make a situation worse (or certainly feel worse about it) but, if I respond from a place of acceptance and calm I will likely retain my sense of balance and I then stand a far better…

What are you missing? October 1, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

As a coach, it’s my job to help people achieve what they want in life by setting goals and overcoming obstacles. But what if the thing you really want is staring you in the face and you just haven’t seen it yet?