There are many temporary things we can do to boost our superficial feelings of confidence. You know the kind of things I mean (you’ve probably Googled them). “Walk tall,” “Create eye contact,” “Smile,” “Dress smartly” etc etc. And, there’s nothing wrong with all of these, especially if they help.
Continue readingIf there’s one thing unhappy people have in common it’s their resistance to life, as it is, right now. Those who are unhappy usually idolise the past, bemoan the present and fear the future. In fact, one of the greatest forms of personal pain is a lack of acceptance because it actually keeps us locked into the very thing that’s hurting us. Resisting something just makes it bigger and more powerful. Ask any surfer who…
Continue readingRecently, I met a woman with a story that’s remarkable both for its sorrow and its joy. She and I were chatting as we helped our little daughters change for their swimming lessons, and she mentioned that she’d previously had another daughter who’d died as an infant. If that wasn’t enough, her marriage then floundered leaving her both childless and single. I remarked that she must have been devastated when this had happened to which…
Continue readingI’m a massive fan of the work of the late American coach, Stephen R Covey. His book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, has literally changed the lives of millions and his legacy is being felt in organisations and families across the world. I use much of his philosophy in my own coaching practice because his simple, principle-centred approach works. He died just over a year ago and to honour his enormous contribution, I thought…
Continue readingI’m really excited to announce the launch of my 5 Steps to Lasting Confidence Workshops in Bath next February 2014. This one-day course will equip you with everything you need to start building a firm foundation of solid self-esteem to ensure you begin achieving all your dreams and desires. Places are limited to 25 and booking is easy through Eventbrite – or please feel free to contact me if you have any queries or need…
Continue readingWho’s really in charge of your life…? Do you have a goal for your life? The next five years? This year? This month? The most successful people in life are goal orientated – they’ve decided what it is they want and have taken the necessary steps to get there. These people might be successful in business, or as parents, or in sport or with their health. Whatever it is they’ve decided they want to achieve…
Continue readingThis is one of my favourite coaching questions because it frees you up to a world of endless possibilities and injects a drop of confidence into your soul. Here’s a small example of how I’ve used this killer question recently with one of my clients…
Continue readingFor my first post as a qualified coach it seems appropriate to reflect on how I came to be a coach and write such a blog…
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