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The impermanence of our feelings… August 7, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development, Spirituality

As part of a recent Confidence Building Workshop, the delegates and I were discussing what confidence is and also what it isn’t. When I wrote the following statement on the board, “Confidence isn’t permanent,” there was a collective sharp intake of breath as light-bulb moments fired off across the room. This statement proved to be very powerful as it freed the people on my course from thinking that in order to be a confident person…

The 7 [thinking] habits of really unhappy people July 29, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

In tribute to the late Stephen R Covey and his brilliant book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (which, if you haven’t read I’d really recommend you do), I thought it would be interesting to look at the opposite. So here, from my own (and my clients’ experiences) is my list of the 7 Beliefs (“Thinking Habits”) sure to keep you unfulfilled, unhappy and unsuccessful…

The A-word July 23, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence

I talk a lot about authenticity in my work, regularly encouraging my clients to find their authentic selves in order to lead happier, more fulfilling lives. So, what does it mean to be ‘authentic’?

Your best is enough July 15, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Your best is enough… The more clients I see, the more I become convinced that we live in a culture where perfectionism is rife and I believe it’s sucking the life out of us. We try to sculpt our bodies into perfectly lean model sizes (unable to enjoy our normal bodies because they’re not “perfect”), we boast on Facebook about our perfect lives on our perfectly groomed summer lawns or in front of our perfectly…

Your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy July 10, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Karen* came to me last year as she was at a crossroads in her life. She’d fallen into an unfulfilling career after university, and then had her children who were now all at school. Quite tearfully, she explained to me that the thought of returning to her former career filled her with dread but she had no idea what else she could do. She wanted to find her passion in life but didn’t know where…

Doing the next right thing… June 11, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Are you someone who worries about the future and spends time fretting about the past? Most of us can relate to this state of mind and we all know it gets us nowhere. For some of us, this way of thinking becomes entrenched and consumes the majority of our thought-life, meaning we can never enjoy the moment. I know because I used to live this way myself.

What drives you? March 4, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Did you know that according to Human Needs Psychology there six basic human (non-physical) needs? These are:

CONFIDENCE BOOKS – free eBook February 27, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence

There are many temporary things we can do to boost our superficial feelings of confidence. You know the kind of things I mean (you’ve probably Googled them). “Walk tall,” “Create eye contact,” “Smile,” “Dress smartly” etc etc. And, there’s nothing wrong with all of these, especially if they help.

What you resist persists February 25, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

If there’s one thing unhappy people have in common it’s their resistance to life, as it is, right now. Those who are unhappy usually idolise the past, bemoan the present and fear the future. In fact, one of the greatest forms of personal pain is a lack of acceptance because it actually keeps us locked into the very thing that’s hurting us. Resisting something just makes it bigger and more powerful. Ask any surfer who…

Nothing stays the same (something else is also true…) January 15, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Recently, I met a woman with a story that’s remarkable both for its sorrow and its joy. She and I were chatting as we helped our little daughters change for their swimming lessons, and she mentioned that she’d previously had another daughter who’d died as an infant. If that wasn’t enough, her marriage then floundered leaving her both childless and single. I remarked that she must have been devastated when this had happened to which…

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