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Letting Go of Outcomes October 22, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

I have a client, we’ll call him Tim*, who used to be terribly worried about getting things right and not making mistakes. He worked a normal 40-hour week but then spent an additional 15-20 hours each week trying to improve the work he’d already done or spot any mistakes he might’ve missed. You might think Tim had a tyrannical boss but the truth is he works for himself, runs his own consultancy and therefore the…

Stop Starting Wars October 7, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Leaders and Teams, Personal Development

I’ve been realising increasingly that happiness or being ‘sorted’ is not about how my life looks from the outside but how I choose to respond to whatever happens. If I respond in fear or frustration I am likely to make a situation worse (or certainly feel worse about it) but, if I respond from a place of acceptance and calm I will likely retain my sense of balance and I then stand a far better…

What are you missing? October 1, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

As a coach, it’s my job to help people achieve what they want in life by setting goals and overcoming obstacles. But what if the thing you really want is staring you in the face and you just haven’t seen it yet?

What is your purpose in life? September 24, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

What is your purpose in life? Like many people you might have no clue and, if you’re like some of the people who responded to my tweet about ‘purpose’ last week, you might also be very troubled by not knowing what your purpose is.

A life without limits September 3, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

How would you react if I told you we were leaving tomorrow to climb Mount Everest…? Unless you’re an experienced high-altitude climber, I imagine something like the following would run through your mind… “But, I can’t climb mountains!” “But, what about my job?” “But, I don’t have any equipment!” “I’m scared…”

Does that frame need changing…? August 26, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Hamlet said, “for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” As we say goodbye to the summer and anticipate the onset of autumn we have a choice; we can either dread the colder, wetter weather or we can look forward to the leaves changing colour and the excitement of the build up to Christmas. It’s up to you – the end of summer can be a good thing or a…

The 5 pillars of lasting confidence August 18, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Uncategorized

Confidence. It’s one of those things we often envy in others, wondering how they so effortlessly present themselves to the world. Maybe you’re one of those people who comes across as really confident but is filled with self-doubt underneath. Or, perhaps you used to be really confident until so-and-so or such-and-such robbed you of your self-belief.

The impermanence of our feelings… August 7, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development, Spirituality

As part of a recent Confidence Building Workshop, the delegates and I were discussing what confidence is and also what it isn’t. When I wrote the following statement on the board, “Confidence isn’t permanent,” there was a collective sharp intake of breath as light-bulb moments fired off across the room. This statement proved to be very powerful as it freed the people on my course from thinking that in order to be a confident person…

The 7 [thinking] habits of really unhappy people July 29, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

In tribute to the late Stephen R Covey and his brilliant book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (which, if you haven’t read I’d really recommend you do), I thought it would be interesting to look at the opposite. So here, from my own (and my clients’ experiences) is my list of the 7 Beliefs (“Thinking Habits”) sure to keep you unfulfilled, unhappy and unsuccessful…

The A-word July 23, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence

I talk a lot about authenticity in my work, regularly encouraging my clients to find their authentic selves in order to lead happier, more fulfilling lives. So, what does it mean to be ‘authentic’?