Unhook From Blame Culture August 10, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development, Relationships – Tags: blame, emotion, freedom, peace, power, victim mentality
How often do you hear people saying that so-and-so has ‘made them feel’ a certain way? How often have you blamed others for your own feelings or situation in life?
Our culture encourages us to do this but it’s a cultural lie because no one can MAKE you feel anything! Believing that other people have power over your feelings turns you into a victim; someone who is utterly at the mercy of the whims of others.
People can be mean and manipulative and you can choose to stay and play or walk away. In the split second before you react you have made a choice – to be hurt, to get angry, to cry, to leave, to accept, to forgive, to yell, to listen. My point is that the choice is yours and yours alone.
You can develop to a point where you CHOOSE your emotions and respond to people from a place of peace and power rather than a place of victimhood and vulnerability. It’s not easy or quick but it is possible and it is far preferable to the alternative.
So, when you are tempted to blame or accuse try to stop and ask yourself what emotional response you are choosing in that moment. Awareness of your emotional choices is the beginning of true freedom…