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Loving others means accepting them for who they are April 8, 2016 – Posted in: Advice, Relationships

I was recently approached by a father who wanted me to work with his daughter so that she could become the focussed, academic, A* student he knew she could be. He wanted the best for her and could see that she wasn’t reaching her potential. He was very keen for her to have coaching. She, on the other hand, was determined (at age 19) to find her own path. She didn’t want to go to…

Forgiving other people is an act of pure SELF love March 14, 2016 – Posted in: Advice, Confidence, Relationships

I’ve been doing a lot of work away from home recently and last week I got chatting to a couple of guys over our hotel breakfasts. I love meeting new people and these guys were fascinating. Both were in their early forties, both had been married and gone through similarly painful divorces over a decade ago, both were dads and both worked hard travelling the UK with their jobs.

Letting go November 16, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development, Relationships

Sometimes it is so hard to let go. Often, despite all the evidence to leave a situation/person/place/job we cling to it emotionally (if not physically). Why?

Everything’s on loan August 24, 2015 – Posted in: Advice, Personal Development, Relationships, Spirituality

Nothing in this life is permanent apart from our sense of self and our connection to a higher consciousness. Everything else is on loan. This means our children are on loan to us, our parents, our friends and our colleagues. Some people are loaned to us for decades, others for a day but no one person is yours for the keeping no matter how much you’d like them to be. Our stuff is also on…

Face Your Feelings July 20, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

I’ve been thinking about the strategies we employ to deal with our feelings and how so many of these strategies backfire.

The Blame Game July 8, 2015 – Posted in: Leaders and Teams, Personal Development, Relationships

As a society we are encouraged to blame other people for our situations. This is evident in the PPI sales-calls we all get, the accident claim adverts on TV, our conversations about our politicians, the divorce courts, the children’s playground and on and on…

Relationships and Fear – Posted in: Relationships

Let’s talk about relationships. Because whatever problems you have in your relationships (with others, with yourself, with life itself) is likely to be fear-based. We tend to be fearful of one (or some, or all) of the following…

The Trouble With Worrying June 10, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Hello, How much value do you place on your worrying? I know that sounds like a crazy question but just think about it for a minute. I know that for years (until I was in my mid-thirties) I actually thought that I was somehow controlling the outcome of a situation by worrying about it. Or, that if I stopped worrying I would be giving ‘life’ permission to do it’s worst.

Quit Complaining March 24, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development, Relationships

It’s so easy to look around and see what’s wrong with the world, your life, your day, the weather, that person, etc. Negativity abounds in our culture – the news is teeming with stories of ‘bad things’ happening in a ‘bad world’, we connect with strangers by complaining about the rain and we’re encouraged on TV to revel in our misery by making financial claims for things that have gone wrong. Why do we glory…

Dear Jo… March 10, 2015 – Posted in: Advice

I feel caught in a dilemma. Some time back I got into a relationship with someone for whom I developed very strong feelings. Sadly the relationship quickly broke down because of some complex family issues that she had to deal with. It happened so fast that at the time I felt very confused and sad and wasn’t quite sure what to believe. We have managed to stay friends and I do trust her much more…