What is your purpose in life? Like many people you might have no clue and, if you’re like some of the people who responded to my tweet about ‘purpose’ last week, you might also be very troubled by not knowing what your purpose is.
Continue readingI was chatting with a friend the other day whose predicament reminded me of a situation I’d been in as a young woman in my early twenties. Having just split up with my long-term boyfriend I’d decided to take the opportunity of singleness to do some backpacking and see a bit of the world. As you can imagine, it was an amazing year packed to bursting with incredible experiences and wonderful people.
Continue readingI have a theory about life and it goes something like this … when we focus on what we can give to life rather than what we can get out of it we become much happier, more fulfilled people (and we get what we need anyway). This is a giving life, not a getting life. Happy, confident people go out and give the best of themselves to life and gain huge satisfaction from doing so.…
Continue readingHow would you react if I told you we were leaving tomorrow to climb Mount Everest…? Unless you’re an experienced high-altitude climber, I imagine something like the following would run through your mind… “But, I can’t climb mountains!” “But, what about my job?” “But, I don’t have any equipment!” “I’m scared…”
Continue readingHamlet said, “for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” As we say goodbye to the summer and anticipate the onset of autumn we have a choice; we can either dread the colder, wetter weather or we can look forward to the leaves changing colour and the excitement of the build up to Christmas. It’s up to you – the end of summer can be a good thing or a…
Continue readingConfidence. It’s one of those things we often envy in others, wondering how they so effortlessly present themselves to the world. Maybe you’re one of those people who comes across as really confident but is filled with self-doubt underneath. Or, perhaps you used to be really confident until so-and-so or such-and-such robbed you of your self-belief.
Continue readingAs part of a recent Confidence Building Workshop, the delegates and I were discussing what confidence is and also what it isn’t. When I wrote the following statement on the board, “Confidence isn’t permanent,” there was a collective sharp intake of breath as light-bulb moments fired off across the room. This statement proved to be very powerful as it freed the people on my course from thinking that in order to be a confident person…
Continue readingIn tribute to the late Stephen R Covey and his brilliant book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (which, if you haven’t read I’d really recommend you do), I thought it would be interesting to look at the opposite. So here, from my own (and my clients’ experiences) is my list of the 7 Beliefs (“Thinking Habits”) sure to keep you unfulfilled, unhappy and unsuccessful…
Continue readingI talk a lot about authenticity in my work, regularly encouraging my clients to find their authentic selves in order to lead happier, more fulfilling lives. So, what does it mean to be ‘authentic’?
Continue readingYour best is enough… The more clients I see, the more I become convinced that we live in a culture where perfectionism is rife and I believe it’s sucking the life out of us. We try to sculpt our bodies into perfectly lean model sizes (unable to enjoy our normal bodies because they’re not “perfect”), we boast on Facebook about our perfect lives on our perfectly groomed summer lawns or in front of our perfectly…
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