One of the best things I’ve been taught to do in recent years is to ‘let go and let life do its thing’. However, truly letting go is also one of the hardest things to achieve – it takes practice and persistence.
Continue readingWhere does your self-esteem come from?
Continue readingMany years ago I was introduced to the concept of living life in 24-hour chunks. It was a very alien concept for someone who was well versed in worrying about/regretting/resenting the past and worrying about/fearing/plotting the future. In fact, the concept was so foreign to me that I failed to integrate it into my life because I just couldn’t see how it would be possible to live one day at a time.
Continue readingOne of the biggest challenges of modern life is how to juggle our work with our family commitments. Whilst some parents choose to stay home with their kids (and hats off to them!), most of us have to work or choose to work AND raise our kids. So, how can you manage this in order to feel like you’re winning at both? For me it comes down to three things – drop the guilt,…
Continue readingIf there’s one thing my clients have in common it’s a VERY critical voice on their shoulder, chirruping away with statements like these: 1. “You’re not good enough.’” 2. “You should be thinner/fatter/fitter/prettier/younger/richer!” 3. “They don’t like you!” 4. “Everyone else is doing better than you!” 5. “It’s all going to go wrong…”
Continue readingLet me tell you about a client of mine who I worked with several years ago… James* was a straight-A student who couldn’t get out of bed or do any studying. He was also taking painkillers by the handful, drinking every day and had stopped eating. Having been predicted a first class degree in his first and second years at university, he now risked being thrown off his course.
Continue readingI’ve been thinking about the strategies we employ to deal with our feelings and how so many of these strategies backfire.
Continue readingIf there’s one thing I’ve come to terms with and accepted in recent years it’s that the only certainty in life is uncertainty. For years I tried to control every aspect of my life and it was a bit like trying to peg down a tent in high winds. Because my life can’t be pegged down and neither can yours!
Continue readingToday I’ve been thinking a lot about how fear is so closely related to control. For example, if you are someone who worries (feels fear) about the future then this is likely because you don’t know what will happen, i.e. you are not in control! And, as a race, we don’t like to be without control…!
Continue readingLet’s talk about relationships. Because whatever problems you have in your relationships (with others, with yourself, with life itself) is likely to be fear-based. We tend to be fearful of one (or some, or all) of the following…
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