Strength and Vulnerability August 10, 2015 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development
Strength and vulnerability are NOT mutually exclusive…
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Strength and vulnerability are NOT mutually exclusive…
Continue readingWhere does your self-esteem come from?
Continue readingOne of the biggest challenges of modern life is how to juggle our work with our family commitments. Whilst some parents choose to stay home with their kids (and hats off to them!), most of us have to work or choose to work AND raise our kids. So, how can you manage this in order to feel like you’re winning at both? For me it comes down to three things – drop the guilt,…
Continue readingIf there’s one thing my clients have in common it’s a VERY critical voice on their shoulder, chirruping away with statements like these: 1. “You’re not good enough.’” 2. “You should be thinner/fatter/fitter/prettier/younger/richer!” 3. “They don’t like you!” 4. “Everyone else is doing better than you!” 5. “It’s all going to go wrong…”
Continue readingLet me tell you about a client of mine who I worked with several years ago… James* was a straight-A student who couldn’t get out of bed or do any studying. He was also taking painkillers by the handful, drinking every day and had stopped eating. Having been predicted a first class degree in his first and second years at university, he now risked being thrown off his course.
Continue readingIf there’s one thing I’ve come to terms with and accepted in recent years it’s that the only certainty in life is uncertainty. For years I tried to control every aspect of my life and it was a bit like trying to peg down a tent in high winds. Because my life can’t be pegged down and neither can yours!
Continue readingHow easy do you find it to allow yourself to be vulnerable? If you’re like most people the answer to that question is probably “not very.” I’m of the opinion that one of our greatest problems as a race is our inability to be vulnerable because it leads to mask wearing, isolation and anxiety.
Continue readingHello, You are not your past. Do you know that? You’re not your past. Your past is an influencing factor in your present – we all have memories locked away that can trigger learnt (automatic) responses today – but you are not your past unless you choose to live there.
Continue readingI was chatting to someone recently over coffee about body image and how we can all get caught up in comparing ourselves to others all the time. And, when we compare ourselves we are either engaging in pride (my body is better than theirs) or fear (their body is better than mine). Neither is healthy, neither is loving.
Continue readingI was recently in London, running a corporate workshop on how to give and receive feedback effectively. It was a brilliant day with some wonderful people and I think I learnt as much as they did. What’s interesting is that wherever I go I encounter the same communication stumbling blocks in the people I meet. A key block on Friday was the sense that it’s somehow bad to get something wrong. And when we believe…
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