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Forget resolutions, set goals December 22, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Set with enthusiasm and all good intentions, resolutions are meant to improve our lives. The problem, as we all know, is that they are usually ‘broken’ by the end of January, leaving us feeling dejected, despondent and cross with ourselves. I was caught in this trap for many, many years until one Christmas I thought I’d set goals for the coming year instead of make resolutions, the focus being on things I could achieve over…

Pre-Christmas De-Stress December 18, 2014 – Posted in: Personal Development, Relationships

So, here we all are at the end of another year and counting the days to Christmas. If, like me, you have young children at home then the excitement will likely be reaching fever pitch especially with all the parties, nativities and mufti days adding to the already heady cocktail of anticipation and exhaustion. There’s no doubt this is a magical and special time of the year but there are many for whom Christmas is difficult…

Love In Action December 4, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development, Relationships, Spirituality

On Sunday, my seven-year-old daughter, Eva, decided to, “test whether what mummy says about things being dangerous is true or not,” by putting her hand on top of the wood burner. It had been on for an hour and she badly burnt her hand. In hindsight, I could write about how interesting it is to me that my first reaction was anger, “What did you do that for?” followed quickly by fear and compassion for…

The powerful medicine that is gratitude… October 29, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

I’ve written about gratitude before but it’s worth returning to, as it’s so very, very powerful. If you are feeling low or frustrated or heartbroken then focussing on the small positive things in your life will give you a boost, take you momentarily away from your negative thoughts and give you a new perspective on your situation.

Gimme, gimme, gimme September 11, 2014 – Posted in: Personal Development, Spirituality, Uncategorized

I have a theory about life and it goes something like this … when we focus on what we can give to life rather than what we can get out of it we become much happier, more fulfilled people (and we get what we need anyway). This is a giving life, not a getting life. Happy, confident people go out and give the best of themselves to life and gain huge satisfaction from doing so.…

A life without limits September 3, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

How would you react if I told you we were leaving tomorrow to climb Mount Everest…? Unless you’re an experienced high-altitude climber, I imagine something like the following would run through your mind… “But, I can’t climb mountains!” “But, what about my job?” “But, I don’t have any equipment!” “I’m scared…”

The 5 pillars of lasting confidence August 18, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Uncategorized

Confidence. It’s one of those things we often envy in others, wondering how they so effortlessly present themselves to the world. Maybe you’re one of those people who comes across as really confident but is filled with self-doubt underneath. Or, perhaps you used to be really confident until so-and-so or such-and-such robbed you of your self-belief.

The A-word July 23, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence

I talk a lot about authenticity in my work, regularly encouraging my clients to find their authentic selves in order to lead happier, more fulfilling lives. So, what does it mean to be ‘authentic’?

Your best is enough July 15, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Your best is enough… The more clients I see, the more I become convinced that we live in a culture where perfectionism is rife and I believe it’s sucking the life out of us. We try to sculpt our bodies into perfectly lean model sizes (unable to enjoy our normal bodies because they’re not “perfect”), we boast on Facebook about our perfect lives on our perfectly groomed summer lawns or in front of our perfectly…

Your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy July 10, 2014 – Posted in: Confidence, Personal Development

Karen* came to me last year as she was at a crossroads in her life. She’d fallen into an unfulfilling career after university, and then had her children who were now all at school. Quite tearfully, she explained to me that the thought of returning to her former career filled her with dread but she had no idea what else she could do. She wanted to find her passion in life but didn’t know where…