Are you someone who worries about the future and spends time fretting about the past? Most of us can relate to this state of mind and we all know it gets us nowhere. For some of us, this way of thinking becomes entrenched and consumes the majority of our thought-life, meaning we can never enjoy the moment. I know because I used to live this way myself.
Continue readingIf there’s one thing I’ve come to terms with and accepted in recent years it’s that the only certainty in life is uncertainty. For years I tried to control every aspect of my life and it was a bit like trying to peg down a tent in high winds. Because my life can’t be pegged down and neither can yours!
Continue readingHow easy do you find it to allow yourself to be vulnerable? If you’re like most people the answer to that question is probably “not very.” I’m of the opinion that one of our greatest problems as a race is our inability to be vulnerable because it leads to mask wearing, isolation and anxiety.
Continue readingHello, You are not your past. Do you know that? You’re not your past. Your past is an influencing factor in your present – we all have memories locked away that can trigger learnt (automatic) responses today – but you are not your past unless you choose to live there.
Continue readingI was recently in London, running a corporate workshop on how to give and receive feedback effectively. It was a brilliant day with some wonderful people and I think I learnt as much as they did. What’s interesting is that wherever I go I encounter the same communication stumbling blocks in the people I meet. A key block on Friday was the sense that it’s somehow bad to get something wrong. And when we believe…
Continue readingToday, be grateful. Whatever you have be thankful you have it. Whatever you don’t have be thankful too (when you eventually get it you’ll realise why you had to wait). Be grateful for those you love. Send warmth to those you struggle with (they are likely teaching you something about yourself). Write a list of ten things you are grateful for and get on with your day. Live to the best of your ability today…
Continue readingHello, How much value do you place on your worrying? I know that sounds like a crazy question but just think about it for a minute. I know that for years (until I was in my mid-thirties) I actually thought that I was somehow controlling the outcome of a situation by worrying about it. Or, that if I stopped worrying I would be giving ‘life’ permission to do it’s worst.
Continue readingI bumped into an old friend to this morning who told me this … “Letting go is often the HARDEST thing to achieve but when we do FREEDOM comes and the thing we want either arrives or we realise we don’t actually need it after all!”
Continue readingI was coaching a client yesterday who had come to the realisation that the only certainty in life is uncertainty. It’s one of those tricky paradoxes that we all live with on a daily basis; some days more keenly than others. None of us know what’s going to happen later today, tomorrow or next week. We have our plans and our hopes but sometimes life has other ideas.
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