How much value do you place on your worrying? What I mean by this is, how much do you feel you can effect in life by worrying? Many people believe that it’s their job and duty to worry. They wear their concern like a uniform.
Continue readingI bumped into an old friend to this morning who told me this … “Letting go is often the HARDEST thing to achieve but when we do FREEDOM comes and the thing we want either arrives or we realise we don’t actually need it after all!”
Continue readingOn Sunday, my seven-year-old daughter, Eva, decided to, “test whether what mummy says about things being dangerous is true or not,” by putting her hand on top of the wood burner. It had been on for an hour and she badly burnt her hand. In hindsight, I could write about how interesting it is to me that my first reaction was anger, “What did you do that for?” followed quickly by fear and compassion for…
Continue readingI have a theory about life and it goes something like this … when we focus on what we can give to life rather than what we can get out of it we become much happier, more fulfilled people (and we get what we need anyway). This is a giving life, not a getting life. Happy, confident people go out and give the best of themselves to life and gain huge satisfaction from doing so.…
Continue readingAs part of a recent Confidence Building Workshop, the delegates and I were discussing what confidence is and also what it isn’t. When I wrote the following statement on the board, “Confidence isn’t permanent,” there was a collective sharp intake of breath as light-bulb moments fired off across the room. This statement proved to be very powerful as it freed the people on my course from thinking that in order to be a confident person…
Continue readingRecently, I’ve been mulling what it means to ‘go with the flow.’ Why? Because I’m learning that when I do manage to let go of trying to control outcomes I have much more peace and things seem to just fall into place. So, how do I reconcile this with being a coach and helping people reach their goals…? A friend once complimented me on my work by saying it was, ‘self help without the wiff…
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