How often do you hear people saying that so-and-so has ‘made them feel’ a certain way? How often have you blamed others for your own feelings or situation in life?
Continue readingStrength and vulnerability are NOT mutually exclusive…
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Continue readingHow much value do you place on your worrying? What I mean by this is, how much do you feel you can effect in life by worrying? Many people believe that it’s their job and duty to worry. They wear their concern like a uniform.
Continue readingOne of the biggest challenges of modern life is how to juggle our work with our family commitments. Whilst some parents choose to stay home with their kids (and hats off to them!), most of us have to work or choose to work AND raise our kids. So, how can you manage this in order to feel like you’re winning at both? For me it comes down to three things – drop the guilt,…
Continue readingIf there’s one thing my clients have in common it’s a VERY critical voice on their shoulder, chirruping away with statements like these: 1. “You’re not good enough.’” 2. “You should be thinner/fatter/fitter/prettier/younger/richer!” 3. “They don’t like you!” 4. “Everyone else is doing better than you!” 5. “It’s all going to go wrong…”
Continue readingLet me tell you about a client of mine who I worked with several years ago… James* was a straight-A student who couldn’t get out of bed or do any studying. He was also taking painkillers by the handful, drinking every day and had stopped eating. Having been predicted a first class degree in his first and second years at university, he now risked being thrown off his course.
Continue readingI’ve been thinking about the strategies we employ to deal with our feelings and how so many of these strategies backfire.
Continue readingIf there’s one thing I’ve come to terms with and accepted in recent years it’s that the only certainty in life is uncertainty. For years I tried to control every aspect of my life and it was a bit like trying to peg down a tent in high winds. Because my life can’t be pegged down and neither can yours!
Continue readingHow easy do you find it to allow yourself to be vulnerable? If you’re like most people the answer to that question is probably “not very.” I’m of the opinion that one of our greatest problems as a race is our inability to be vulnerable because it leads to mask wearing, isolation and anxiety.
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