I have a theory about life and it goes something like this … when we focus on what we can give to life rather than what we can get out of it we become much happier, more fulfilled people (and we get what we need anyway).
Continue readingI was chatting to someone recently over coffee about body image and how we can all get caught up in comparing ourselves to others all the time. And, when we compare ourselves we are either engaging in pride (my body is better than theirs) or fear (their body is better than mine). Neither is healthy, neither is loving.
Continue readingToday, be grateful. Whatever you have be thankful you have it. Whatever you don’t have be thankful too (when you eventually get it you’ll realise why you had to wait). Be grateful for those you love. Send warmth to those you struggle with (they are likely teaching you something about yourself). Write a list of ten things you are grateful for and get on with your day. Live to the best of your ability today…
Continue readingHello, How much value do you place on your worrying? I know that sounds like a crazy question but just think about it for a minute. I know that for years (until I was in my mid-thirties) I actually thought that I was somehow controlling the outcome of a situation by worrying about it. Or, that if I stopped worrying I would be giving ‘life’ permission to do it’s worst.
Continue readingHello, As a confidence coach I’m often asked what I do in order to be more confident. And my answer is that it’s not so much what I do but what I THINK that allows me to have a confident day.
Continue readingI bumped into an old friend to this morning who told me this … “Letting go is often the HARDEST thing to achieve but when we do FREEDOM comes and the thing we want either arrives or we realise we don’t actually need it after all!”
Continue readingI was coaching a client yesterday who had come to the realisation that the only certainty in life is uncertainty. It’s one of those tricky paradoxes that we all live with on a daily basis; some days more keenly than others. None of us know what’s going to happen later today, tomorrow or next week. We have our plans and our hopes but sometimes life has other ideas.
Continue readingYou know when you keep hearing the same phrase repeated over a period of time? Well, over the past 24 hours I’ve read and heard the phrase, “it’s always darkest before the dawn” three times. I think life is trying to tell me something!
Continue readingHello, Here’s what I’m mulling today… “He who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right” – Confucius
Continue readingConfidence is one of the greatest gifts we can give to our children, especially in this era of constant peer comparison on social media. But, how on earth do you instill self-belief into your child? Aside from the basics of love, nurture, support and clear boundaries it’s my conviction that the more I allow my daughters to do things independently of me the more confidence they gain. This can be in the small things…
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